If you’re a natural disruptor, you’re going to do it whether you want to or not. Sometimes your presence, your energy, is all it takes to disrupt fuckery. Sometimes your choosing not to participate in the fuckery, without even saying a word, disrupts it and gets people mad. They don’t consciously know it, and some of you disruptors probably don’t consciously know it yet, but your choice to not participate and say absolutely nothing says absolutely everything. If everyone is taking turns complimenting the emperors imaginary clothes, what happens when you just stand there and smile when it’s your turn? […]

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If you’re in college, what does learning look like? You read books, you synthesize the information, you take tests to prove what you learned. Or, you write research papers and essays proving what you learned. How do you do those? You present a hypothesis, and then you set out to prove that hypothesis. You find research papers that back up your hypothesis, and you quote them. Many of them. If you strike out, if your hypothesis doesn’t have any prior research backing it up, you go back to the drawing board and find something that CAN be supported by evidence. […]

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I’m gonna go hard today, so get ready. I’m not fucking with this dissociative bullshit some people are pushing as spiritual advice. I am a former reigning queen of dissociation and I know it when I see it, I don’t care how nicely you package it. There really is nothing nice about telling people with trauma that the solution is to dissociate to feel better. Trauma is in the body. Emotions are in the body. Memories literally live in our cells. The solution is not for people to disconnect from themselves, it’s to reconnect back to themselves and learn how […]

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Don’t stuff down your emotions now. I know, it’s overwhelming and you feel so many things. If you care about the health and well-being of your body, don’t stuff it down, don’t bottle it up. It sticks trauma in our bodies and I don’t have enough time to go into all the reasons that’s an issue. We don’t need any more of THIS trauma in our bodies. Nope, no more. Who’s having a chronic pain flare up today? Who is having migraines? Who is having joint pain and arthritis flare ups? Who has a stomach ache? Who is having muscle […]

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